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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]PAID CAREGIVERS. 
Rotating basis. 
Family members can supervise, FIL and SILs.

This is what my MIL with Parkinson’s has had for years. Her caregivers are loyal and caring. My oldest BIL supervises because he lives close by. My husband and I live far away but DH is a doctor and helps coordinate her medical care. And her youngest son drops in and lends a hand every now and then. The caregivers cook, clean, bathe, give meds, massages, and provide company.

Please push for this, the situation is really not fair to your SIL1.
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Did your MIL (or BIL if he was in charge of the finances) tell you how much the caregivers cost?   [/quote]

No. But I know that MIL’s finances barely cover the caregiving costs, so her three sons need to contribute to her living expenses. Which we are all happy to do, not because we’re rich, but because she deserves it.

These caregivers are not official geriatric aides, so they’re probably not expensive. I doubt they’re licensed or whatever the term is. I don’t know what the tax situation is. My MIL chose them herself a decade ago when she recognized she would need extensive care, and there’s a relationship of trust. We all love them and treat them well. It’s really all thanks to MIL, who foresaw her decline and knows how to choose people.

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Troll post. You said there are 2 sons and 1 daughter. Now there are 3 sons?[/quote]

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