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[quote=Anonymous]Oh, please. My mom and her siblings go on and on about what they endured at the hands of my grandfather. I’d say they all did “better” as parents, but made plenty of mistakes.

I make tons of mistakes as a parent, too. The difference is—and (speaking in very broad strokes, I admit) I think it’s generational—I always apologize and admit when I am wrong. I don’t just let something blow over; I sincerely tell my kids (10 and 7) that I am sorry if I lose my temper, lose my patience, forget something, etc.

Boomers seem to have a particularly hard time admitting any wrong. “We did the best we could, and you had it WAY better than we did.” Both of those things may well be true, but that doesn’t mean you should never apologize as a parent.

My dad will apologize now, but he never did when we were kids; my mom to this day won’t apologize, even when she royally screws up.

Self-awareness, recognition, and apology can go a very long way. I will add to the generational litany: “I do the best I can, my kids have it way better than I did, AND I apologize to my kids and to my spouse when I am wrong.”[/quote]

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