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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Do you think this is a real dynamic?

Young adults (18-23) with a sense of being wronged. They’re exhausted parents who did everything they could.

Lots of resentment bubbling over. [/quote]

I think so. If their parents didn't want to procreate, young people wouldn't have a single problem to begin with. You bring other humans into this world without their consents, pass your subpar genes, do flawed parenting with your limited emotional and financial resources in a messed up world, the least you can do is to apologize. I'm only half kidding here, even the best of parents are literally the source of half of the problems kids face.[/quote]

Wow. Speechless. [/quote]

Well kids cause a lot of expense and trouble for the unsuspecting parents too. It evens the score.[/quote]

I'm honestly saying this all with a light heart (I'm not either of those PPs), but he response to this is why would the parent be unsuspecting? Shouldn't we know what we are getting into when we bring a child into the world?[/quote]
No. You are told it’s really hard and you see that it’s really hard, but you don’t *really* get it until it’s too late! And Mother Nature sets it up so you decide to have another one right when your first is getting easier but still really cute and importantly, small enough to control easily.  You don't get how the teen years will go until it’s too late and you have more than one! Such  a bait and switch!  If they started as teens, 75% would be only children.[/quote]

Honest question: what was it you didn’t understand about raising children until you had kids?[/quote]

I did not understand how biased our society is against mothers.  It seems that we are praising motherhood while quietly stubbing mothers in the back.[/quote]

Can you provide an example? [/quote]

E.g. an enormous pressure to breastfeed without any consideration of what it means for a particular woman on a practical level.  I am saying it as a working mom of three whose kids never had formula - breastfeeding or pumped milk only for at least a year each.   [/quote]

We must live in different worlds. In my circle ($300k+ HHI) most of us formula feed without any sort of guilt or issue after attempting nursing. If you feel pressure to breastfeed, it’s the circle you’re running in. [/quote]

Things change with time. Once upon a time people use to hire wet nurses, now they buy synthetic formula. What are you going to do if its not working out. What's the point in harboring guilt?[/quote]

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