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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think my kids would have appreciated an opportunity to vacation with both parents at age 10. It would have been awful for me (my XH was abusive) so I never considered it.[/quote]

Hi! ACOD here. My parents tried doing things like joint holiday celebrations (at the recommendation of my mother’s quack therapist). It was awful and every one of my several siblings and I (and we’re all very different types of people) hated it.

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Another ACOD here. I just posted, but in contrast to you my siblings and I really liked it when our divorced parents did things together with us. As a (married) mom, I can appreciate what they did even more now. It gave my brothers and I an understanding that relationships are complex and that even if marriages end, a type of caring relationship can continue.  My siblings and I talk about this all the time, and how it has given us relationship skills.[/quote]

Thanks for posting this.  I’m divorced with a 10 year old and my ex and l do some holidays together for our kid.  It’s not awkward.  We get along pretty well as long as we’re not living together.  I hate that some people are so judgmental about it. [/quote]

I like how you are cherry-picking and completely ignoring the fact that it is not the vacationing together factor alone that OP is worried about and that most posters are saying is a red flag: ***he also ghosted her for a month.***

Are you actually saying that someone who ghosted her for a month and is vacationing with his family is not a red flag? The ghosting for a month alone would be a red flag! Can you really say otherwise with a straight face?[/quote]

I thanked her because I’ve been called weird (and other things) for doing stuff together with my ex and kid.  In our situation it’s best for the kid.  It’s off topic.  Happens all the time on DCUM.  Of course the ghosting sucks.  I’m not giving advice to the OP.  [/quote]

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