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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I could have written most of your post OP.  My DD would even get sick and throw up after parties bc of eating too much.  After that happened more than once we knew she needed some guidance.  My DD is a teen now and it is a lot better, pretty much a non issue now.

[b]I know DCUM disagrees largely, but for us, we set limits. At home, she would serve herself her dinner portion and what she wanted, but if she wanted seconds it would be a much smaller portion, no thirds.  Hungry later? Then fruits, vegetables, or milk/cheese.[/b]

At parties, before we went, I would remind her 1 dessert, no more than 3 pieces of pizza.  She can have something else later at home if she is still hungry.

For snacks I helped guide her with what a portion size looks like and how we need to vary the food groups we are eating.

We also upped her physical activity.

She was on borderline of overweight (according to children's BMI percentile) but now she isn't and for the most is good at self regulation, but it does take her effort and thought on her part.  But that is true for most people as they get into adulthood.  It is a good skill to learn that just because you want a third piece of pie doesn't mean you should eat it[/quote]

This. A normal sized first portion, a smaller second portion. Then dinner is over. If she is actually still hungry later, a healthful snack. (She likely won’t be). Allowing your child to simply eat as much as she wants is insane, when your child wants three helpings. [/quote]

This is the problem though - portion sizes are arbitrary and by telling someone externally what amount they “should” want, you are getting them no closer to being able to follow their own internal cues.

[b]It’s also fine to have a lot of food sometimes. [/b]If the idea of having three servings is anxiety-provoking for you, then you need to think about why that is.[/quote]

[b]The OP is not talking about sometimes, she's talking about often.[/b] I'm not anxious a bit, rather disgusted that no guidance is being provided to this child regarding self-control. She needs that more than another helping. [/quote]

Not really. I’m not entirely convinced there’s a problem. OP described occasional overeating at events, which is common. And that she has an adult sized dinner portion, which is totally fine.[/quote]

OP describes her as overeating pretty regularly, at home and at events, and has for several years now.  They have said nothing, thinking it would self correct and it hasn't.  And is now she overweight.  So....saying nothing is not working for them[/quote]

I've seen so many kids get chubby right before starting puberty.  So in reality there may be no problem here. I would just keep pushing majority healthy foods, good eating habits like eating slowly, and limitin--not eliminating--desserts and unhealthy snacks.[/quote]

There is a difference between kids getting chubbier than they have usually been before puberty and kids that are actually overweight (BMI >85th percentile).  Kids that enter puberty already overweight are very likely to stay overweight unless there are some changed made. [/quote]

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