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[quote=Anonymous]I quit my work to become a SAHM when DC1 was born. Then once school started I rejoined the workforce. When DC2 was born, it basically was impossible even with the best childcare we could muster. DH begged me to become a permanent SAHM because he also was drowning with childcare issues when we became parents of two.

Life became absolutely wonderful and thriving because I was a SAHM.

But, why should I have been forced to become a SAHM by corporate inflexibility? I had all the credentials and college education to have actually contributed more to the world than just mothering two kids. I always felt that I could have leaned in if I could have worked from home remotely and if I could have a full time nanny.  This is the only ideal situation for working in this country.  But, this is not how my friends in Canada are managing work-life-parenting balance.

Anyhow, DC1 is now 23 in her first job.  I have made sure that she stays local, that she picked up a career that is well paying and that she can work remote if she wants. If she wants to marry and have kids, well, she needs to be in DMV, next to our house, so that we can raise her kids.   Since the time I left the workforce, and the time that my kid has grown up, nothing has changed regarding childcare. For my DD and my future DIL, I will be raising the grandkids.

Childcare standards have fallen and it has become more expensive, and schools that at one point served as childcare & learning institutions are also failing kids in education massively.   When I became a SAHM, my kids were being enriched at home by me.  I was lucky that my DH made enough and also appreciated that he could concentrate on his work and the kids were being well educated by me at home.  He thought my multiple college degrees were fantastic because our kids got the best tutor possible for education.

In all of this, I was lucky that my DH made enough money, that he was healthy and that we had a good marriage.  If any of these three things were not ok, I would have been screwed as a SAHM.  So, if the govt cannot fix childcare and education, perhaps the govt can pay SAHMs to stay at home so they do not become vulnerable. [/quote]

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