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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Although I am fine with everyone celebrating Christmas however they want, our family has a lot of family traditions that we look forward to every year and I would be disappointed if I found out MIL had invited the neighbour family. Obviously her choice but it would change everything about the day for us and the kids. We hang out in PJs which I would not do with strangers and we have lots of just family chat and jokes that would not be appropriate with strangers at the meal. It is a very different social event when people you have never met are present vs family you are comfortable with. We also open gifts throughout the day and since we wouldn’t have gifts for the neighbour family, we wouldn’t do our gift giving as it would be very rude to do in front of others, especially kids. We also play games in the afternoon and those can get very competitive but since we all know each other it is a friendly competitive but I wouldn’t be comfortable playing games with a neighbour family present as our banter could make them very uncomfortable and they would be at a disadvantage. Basically all our traditions would need to be put on hold as they are based on a shared foundation and comfort level with each other and having a family present that we don’t know and they don’t know us would mean those traditions would not happen. I also expect my kids to act differently and I supervise them differently when in the company of new people and adults they have never met vs with grandparents and well known family.

OP has a right to do Christmas as she wishes but I can see why MIL is disappointed if she thought she was coming to spend Christmas with family vs with neighbours she has never met.[/quote]

My family finds joy in new friends and faces joining us on Christmas. [/quote]

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