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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, go see a therapist. Some of this is your dad, some of this is you. And has nothing to do with politics. Maybe you don’t mean to, but you come across as narcissistic.

BTW, no one is going broke on a marijuana habit. I get the feeling if his hobby were fishing, you’d have an issue about how he bought himself a fishing pole and made you take out student loans. Basically, he’s supposed to foresake anything that brings him  a little bit of pleasure for you. I hope you aren’t raising your own children the way you wanted to be treated. You sound like you want everything handed to you at someone else’s expense. As a lifelong Dem voter, I can’t stand this attitude -it gives fuel to people who don’t want to support social programs for the underprivileged.[/quote]

Op here. People do go broke from buying marijuana. You have no idea what my childhood was like because of his drug habit. He could have provided us with a much better upbringing if he wasn't high all the time. He was feeling a little pleasure daily. That's not okay. Even if I didn't qualify for student loan forgiveness, I would still support others who do qualify. [/quote]

Wait wait wait - you are a college drop out, who owes student loans, and you blame your dad?  I wish you could understand how pathological you sound.  You blame your failures on other people, which is very childlike.  All an external locus of control.   If you had no car, get a job and buy one.    [/quote]

I'm this poster.  The more I read OP's post above it, the more ick it makes me feel.  That she is broke up because he "is feeling pleasure daily."  After not buying her a car as a teen.  This is so dysfunctional.  I bet her father blames his shortcomings on his parents too, and it's just a vicious cycle of generational failures.  Wake up OP.  Go accomplish things.  Forget the past.  [/quote]

Op here. Some of you are sick and have no idea what its like to have parents that are drug addicts. You know what's dysfunctional? Parents who do drugs. [/quote]

OP, some of us have been in your shoes. We make different choices from you, get help, and work on our own outlook. You need to be the ultimate victim in every story so suppose you will post back telling us that your life is so much worse. Have at it. You don’t want to deal with your trauma, you want to wallow in it. That is the behavior you are modeling for children and it’s damaging.[/quote]

Op here. My life is fine. I distanced myself from him. You know next to nothing about me, but yet you are labeling me as playing the victim. In real life I know no one whose parents are drug addicts. It's especially tough now that I have kids because my dad and his new wife are still using drugs. The last time they visited, they disappeared for a few hours and returned stoned. They took a plane to visit us as we live several states away, and they found drugs where I live locally even though they know no one from my area. I don't want my kids exposed to this. I can't sympathize with drug addicts. If that makes me selfish, so be it. [/quote]

Again with the victimhood. He’s a loser, and you allow him in your house. Per your recounting, he’s had substance abuse issues as long as you’ve known him. Yet you allow him to stay in your home. That’s on you.[/quote]

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