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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think the girl is BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder -- not bipolar!! Very different!) My mom has this, and apparently made up that her parents were abusive and her childhood was miserable. I mean, she may have been miserable, and her parents were not perfect, but her depictions of it are self serving, for sympathy and credit and all of that. She's got siblings, and they have very different and more believable perspectives (yes, siblings have varied experiences in dysfunctional households, but hang on a minute).BPDs happen in dysfunctional families but also healthy-enough families - it's genetic and can also get kicked off by environment.

Ok, my main point is : my mother, the BPD, vilified her parents exactly the same way the OP is describing, amplifying certain things, rearranging other things, with zero shame about it, but with a major emphasis on being angry they weren't more mainstream American and richer (instead, poor white immigrants), and all of it seemed perfectly reasonable to her, to rearrange reality so that it got her attention and sympathy. AND THEN, she continued the pattern her entire life, through marriage and her kids (me) and I really, actually and truly suffer from it. She was a nightmare parent.

This story, OP, about your child, could be about my mother at a young unmarried age. So advice is, look out if she gets kids. The kids will need you. My mother allowed us zero relatiobships with extended family, so this will be tricky.[/quote]

So she was mad her parents weren't richer and more mainstream. That's her right. It was her childhood and that's how she felt. How does that make her BPD? (And how would that get her attention and sympathy?)

Sounds like she was right to keep you away from her siblings, since they have destroyed her in your eyes, even though she raised you. Her instincts were spot on.[/quote]

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