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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Stop apologizing.
Instead, acknowledge that she is unhappy (telling her parents that they should not have had children is a huge red flag)
and say something like "everyone is doing the best they can" and "I cannot go back and change what happened in the past, but I can change the choices I make in the future"   This type of statement should be your response every time she brings up something that happened long ago.

Both of these, besides being true,  can give her a different lens to view her past through and hopefully give her a push to take responsibility for her own happiness.  It sounds like she is looking for someone to blame but is not working on making her current life into something that makes her happy.   Whether she blames you or not, you cannot magically change her past or even her life now.   She needs to move forward instead of looking backward.   Do what you can to help her do so instead of supporting her being stuck in the past.   [/quote]
+1 also look up "black and white" thinking[/quote]

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