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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What exactly are the "parenting shortcomings" you have conceded to?[/quote]
Still no answer to this. Hm. [/quote]

Sorry. OP here. I apologized for not getting her art lessons.  We did piano instead.  BC that's what she wanted at the time. I apologized for us not having a lot more money so we could pay for art school. I apologized for not being artistic myself BC she said I don't understand her artistic soul.  I've apologized for her not having a good grandmother. I've apologized for not encouraging her to apply to julliard.  She said years later that she had wanted to be a concert pianist. But she didn't practice that much. She had mentioned julliard once and I gave her a lightly skeptical look.  I've also apologized for choosing to have child/her. I've apologized for not being a trust fund family.  I've apologized for not handling her teenage tantrums better. As a teen she would get so angry and complain rant.  I never liked to engage with her so I'd tell her I couldnt talk with her until she calmed down.  She is angry about that BC she said talking would have calmed her.  There is a lot more but that's the general gist. I've also apologized for not being the mother she wanted.
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Stop apologizing, most of this sounds tongue in cheek and almost sarcastic??[/quote]

DP and that's what it sounds like to me. It was probably the non apology - I am sorry you felt, I am sorry didn't get, I am sorry I gave birth to you
This is so completely obnoxious and I would avoid an adult who acted this way too!

OP do yourself a favor, just accept no, you were not a perfect parent. Yes, you made lots of mistakes. Yes, your child is a real person, who has their own real feelings and their own perceptions of a situation and they don't and won't match your parent feelings and perceptions. You are still viewing your DD as an extension of you that must therefore resemble you in thought, feelings, words, beliefs,

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