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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm another single parent to a toddler who has debated the same question. I'm 99% sure my child will be an only now even though I haven an embryo left.

Here is how I decided:

I think as a single parent I have an extra responsibility to stay healthy and active as a parent as I age. I not only worried about the health risk of a pregnancy in my mid-40s, but also I've come to recognize that caring for my body takes a time investment I would not be able to make with a second child.

Financially, I could stretch to make things work for a second child - but it would be at the expense of my first child. I grew up in a large family and it took me years to get out from under my student loan and credit card debt because my parents couldn't support me after 18 or contribute anything to college - too many siblings to pay for.

As I think about gaining free time as my child gets older, I find I am yearning more to focus on myself with that free time than to parent another child. Again, happy parent equals better parent. I think my child is better off having one great, happy, healthy parent than a super-stressed parent + a sibling.[/quote]

I really appreciated this perspective,  thank you. (Not OP)[/quote]

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