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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you love your spouse and want to keep him, schedule it once a week.

Once every 3-4 months is close to no sex. It's not sustainable.[/quote]

Rest assured her husband is already going elsewhere for his unmet needs. OP: grant him an official hall pass so both of you can just stop pretending. If you ever do find your libido, then monogamy becomes a valid option once again.[/quote]

If he’s already a cheater and a liar who endangers his family and doesn’t prioritize his child, why would she want monogamy with him? Divorce would be a better option.

Assuming he’s a man of integrity— and nothing in her OP suggests otherwise— they can work together to have a mutually satisfying sex life, if it’s important to both of them. If he’s the kind of gross person you suggest he is, all the sex in the world won’t make a good marriage with him.[/quote]

But she does not want sex, therefore monogamy is not really an option for her. Why would she divorce over something so unimportant, that she does not even want, like sex? Obviously she is just fine staying married without sex.
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If her husband is cheating, my advice is that she divorce her husband over being a [i]liar[/i], who [i]doesn’t prioritize his young child[/i]  and [i]endangers his spouse[/i].  None of those behaviors have anything to do with sex or it’s relative importance, only a reflection on the kind of man who behaves that way. [/quote]

He deserves a hero medal for prioritizing his marriage and young child by NOT getting divorced, and instead going elsewhere to meet his normal healthy sexual needs. Again WHY divorce over something unimportant like sex? Your argument makes no sense.[/quote]

Ok, PP.  Keep telling yourself that you deserve a "hero medal" for cheating on your wife[/quote]

NP. Keep telling yourself it makes you more moral to divorce and rip your family apart because you want to have sex. Who is the "better" person: the one who marries and divorces 3 times, or the one who stays married for 40 years and has one or two transgressions but remains in their family? What life do you want? It's not so black and white. [/quote]

A cheating spouse is not remaining in their family.  Cheaters check out mentally and emotionally [/quote]

NP.  That isn't universally true, but even if it were, checking out for a few months at a time is STILL better than divorcing/abandoning someone.[/quote]

(Man divorces over sexless marriage) DCUM harpies: "how could he blow up the whole family just to get his dk wet?
(Man STAYS in sexless marriage by meeting his needs elswhere) DCUM harpies: "how could he blow up the whole family just to get his dk wet?[/quote]

(DCUM commenters give a bunch of suggestions for how OP can get her sex drive back) Men: “your husband is cheating and is totally justified.” [/quote]

You SERIOUSLY believe that a normal healthy man is living on sex three times PER YEAR? The denial is strong in this forum.[/quote]

Lots of men go without sex. It is not something you are entitled to.

There are disabled men. Men deployed overseas. Men whose wives are sick with things like cancer. Men who must take certain medications. Men who develop prostate cancer. Men who are religious and won't have sex unless married. Men with conditions like autism or intellectual disabilities who can't find a partner.

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Agree that OP's husband certainly is not eNtItLeD to sex with OP. But based upon her disinterest in sex, neither is she eNtItLeD to his fidelity.[/quote]

Yes. She is. It’s a literal foundation of marriage, designed to avoid the social cost of illegitimate children and questioned paternity. Don’t like it? Don’t get married. [/quote]

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