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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My mom dealt with my rude, condescending grandmother (her MIL) who made outlandish comments by just thinking of her as she would an out of line toddler that says crazy things. She told me once she took that mindset it helped a lot and she ended up doing a lot of ignoring/deflecting . “Okay Larla, if you say so. Anyway, I have to go stir the peas now.” “Yes, I heard you last time you mentioned that. Oh I forgot to water my plants, better go do that now.” Dumb examples, but you get the idea.[/quote]

Yes this is the way! You have to just think “oh this is what she does! It has nothing to do with me.” And believe it. And don’t get sucked in.

FWIW my MIL is similar in that she is SO sad her kids have grown up and will talk so much about how the happiest days are behind her. Which is both sad because I think she does feel that way, but also kind of weird because she makes her kids feel guilty about growing up. My DH has always hated and resented that and it’s carried over into his thoughts about parenthood in ways I’m not wild about. But she’s not going to change and my DH has to take responsibility for his own actions in response to her behavior (mostly being terrified of the idea of me staying home, which I untimely did not do but have thought about). Anyway just forget there is any possibility of her changing. She’s not going to! So do what you need to minimize your own stress as a result.[/quote]

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