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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP again. We also use daycare, and I don't ever rely on her, but of course she wants to see her grandchild, so we try and find times for her to see him, and that's the result. I also "dropped the rope" and DH manages her, so this isn't as much an active issue, but an irritation nonetheless because she's extremely needy and wants more and more time.[/quote]

Make a game out of her comments.  Literally, someone suggested this years ago to me on DCUM when I complained about my MIL.  She wasn't toxic, but she had a habit of making comments that drove me CRAZY, but were overall sort of minor.  So then I started to try to guess ahead of time what her comments would be.  So: 1) she will comment on someone's haircut and how it looks terrible 2) she will make a comment about food she doesn't like 3) she will complain we are "late" even when we are the first ones there 4) she will defend her small, yet aggressive, dog's behavior etc etc etc.

It helped me stop getting so worked out about the sh*t I couldn't change.  She still is a difficult person, but when she says a comment I've anticipated, I almost feel happy about it.  Mainly because it shows I've got her pegged pretty well!  It turns out when I stopped caring so much, she got less annoying.[/quote]

Love this![/quote]

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