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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Quiet low-key kids should go to LACs. We made the exact same mistake with our oldest. We knew he was anxious and overwhelmed and struggled to come out of his shell — but we sent him to the state flagship because it was perceived to be more prestigious than LACs within driving distance. He was immediately overwhelmed and became a loner and before long was ditching most of his classes. If you have no friends, you don’t even want to eat in the cafeteria because it’s so embarrassing to eat alone. If nobody invites you anywhere on a weekend, it’s embarrassing to even walk around the dorm, so you become a shut-in. Even the brightest kids spiral quickly.[/quote]

This is my fear about DS - but he’s determined to ED to the state flagship. I think however it’s all about the luck of who is your roommate and who do you meet in your dorm, right ?[/quote]

My DS grew up dreaming of going to the state flagship, we didn't even consider fit, it was just where he always dreamed of going Then he got in, so it was a no-brainer, right. But fit is very much a thing. And huge in-state universities have cliques and social hierarchy carrying over from high school, so if you were low in the totem pole in high school, that carries onto campus. It's not the 80s, where nobody knew anything about you and everyone was starting from scratch and clamoring to make all new friends.[/quote]

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