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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP...you sound like a jerk. If your child is actually applying to "selective schools" they are smart and hard working. They have good grades. They have good test scores. They already have an essay. And what is your response? They are "stubborn", "lazy", and it would  be a "waste of an application fee" to submit her application because she isn't doing what you want her to. Really, OP? You are prepared to drop thousands and thousands of dollars on a college education but you think paying under $100 to apply is a "waste"? Nice way to acknowledge your child's accomplishments.

You are acting like a jerk, and, understandably, your kid is refusing to do what you are suggesting. You've turned this into an ugly power struggle. You. The adult.

"Larla. I'm sorry how I've been acting about your essay. Your application is so strong, and your essay is good. Of course I will pay for your applications. I just got a little crazy because I know other kids are getting lots of private help with their essays. You don't need that kind of help, but it's unfair that other kids are getting it and you are not. I was just trying to think of a way to make it more fair for you, but I understand I sounded like a jerk about it. Whatever you decide, it's up to you. I hope you will think about letting someone read your essay and give feedback, but whatever you decide is ok with me. I won't bring it up again."

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I know my kid, no all high stats kids are hard working, she is smart but would just do the minimum to get an A, won’t do extra work if not required.

Her reason for refusing editing is in order to elaborate  to improve the flow(my feedback), she needs to cut other things out due to the word limit, there will be too much rework ..[/quote]

This...does not change anything.

Flow is subjective, OP. And none of your writing here has convinced me that your ideas are better than your kid's ideas.

But go ahead and play this game of chicken with your kid where you have a tantrum and refuse to pay application fees for her top schools. Will you feel like a winner when she doesn't apply to those schools?

(And FYI: doing the amount of work required to get an A and not creating more trouble for herself is smart. It's called prioritizing and being efficient. Students (and people) who know how to do this are less likely to burn out).[/quote]

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