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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don’t think it’s necessarily rude (I can imagine a situation where it is, but it would have to be extreme). But it is exclusive and does inhibit socializing on the play date. Not just between the kids but also between the parents, as well as between the kids and the other child’s parent. It creates divisions so the environment is less communal and social. I can understand OP feeling a little put off by it.

I think it’s interesting that many responses on the thread point out the value of doing this in order to encourage bilingual speech in kids, without acknowledging that there is a social cost. Personally, I would weigh those against each other equally— I value my child learning another language, but I also value connections with other families and wanting my child to feel she belongs not just to our family but to a broader community.[/quote]

I know a family who only spoke a non-English language to their kids until they entered preschool, which as totally traumatic. Being a non-English speaker in school is terribly stressful. One of their kids was practically mute in school for years afterward. Literally did not speak, although he could. We lost track of them in high school so not sure what happened after that.[/quote]

Oh please this is complete BS- if they were truly mute that long, then it was due to some other reasons. I have worked with hundreds of kids coming into school not knowing English and literally none of them were really mute and all of them communicating perfectly fine after 6 months - to a year at the most.[/quote]

Yes, he wasn't really mute. He could talk. He just didn't. Not complete BS at all.[/quote]

There are kids with selective mutism whose parents only speak English.  You're confusing causation with correlation.  [/quote]

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