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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]"My kids are a little younger but dh and I got in a disagreement on this. For me, I decided a long time ago that I would not drink if I was going to be the driver. It seems to easy to misjudge how I'm doing and sometimes I don't feel anything after a couple of drinks and sometimes half a glass of wine hits me. But dh who weighs 100 pounds more than me, is okay having a drink or two early in a gathering, then eat a meal, then drive home.

As someone said up thread, kids see things in black and white. I think it's hard for them to fully comprehend the nuance. Our nine year old even said coming home from a BBQ where we left at 7pm and dh had one beer when we arrived around 2:30 pm, "mommy's going to drive, right, because dad had a beer." And dh wanted to go on and on about BAC and time and metabolism and how he's fine, and I just wanted to say, "yep, I'm driving." I mean we could have a bigger conversation later on, but I don't know too many new teen drivers who I would trust to make good judgements. So much clearer to have a solid line for when you drink, you don't drive, even if you feel fine. And you can call home and get a ride at any hour, which, huh, I guess means that either dh or I are designated back up driver when the kids are out once we get to that stage."

By this logic, nobody could ever drive to a restaurant for a leisurely meal with a cocktail and then some wine with the meal. You could never meet up with friends at a brewery if you need to drive there. This is not a very useful way to model responsible drinking.[/quote]

NP. Not disputing your right to have a drink with dinner, but I really don’t think anyone should have a drink and drive—ever. Both DH and I believe this and don’t drink at restaurants, etc. if we’re driving. Never have, never will.[/quote]

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