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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It is the over-sharing.  I don't need or want to hear about every problem you're having or ever had.  Keep the drama to yourself.[/quote]
I admit that this is how I feel too. I only interact with people like this at work (have no patience for them in my regular life) and this is why I am respectful but keep my distance. [/quote]

Same.  My work is different from my private life.  In my private life, I choose to stay away from people who essentially want free therapy from me.  While I am respectful of their needs, they need to respect that I get to make this choice.[/quote]

OP here. I'm not talking about people who choose to limit interaction with someone who is behaving in a dysfunctional way. I do that too.

I'm talking about when people are cruel and critical of people who are struggling, whether it's complaining endlessly about their coworker who is negative and angry (the irony of this one) or using "dysfunctional" as an insult. I've just encountered a lot of people from "good" families who are mean when it comes to these issues and it surprises me.

Another thing I've observed. I have a couple friends who are from really loving families with really kind and loving parents (who I adore). When I socialize with these friends, they can be so cutting about people from dysfunctional backgrounds or people who's struggle with mental health, to the point that I've had to distance myself from them because I find their attitude offensive. But since I know their parents, I also know their parents would NEVER talk like that. It really surprises me to hear people from what I know to be really solid upbringings being very intolerant and sometimes cruel towards people who simply don't have their advantages. Is it just ignorance? Do they learn these attitudes from peers and just repeat that instead of following in their parents' tolerant, empathetic footprints? I've never understood this.[/quote]

Cut it out with the advantage. It’s no one’s fault your parents were alcoholics.

You’re so annoying, that’s why ppl are short. [/quote]

See, but it's this. There is absolutely no reason for you to be so mean-spirited and cruel. You clearly DON'T get it.

OP is not saying it's anyone's fault. But, it is not too much to expect a little empathy, patience, and understanding. [/quote]

It is documented that empathy levels are as low as they’ve been. No surprise.  That’s late-stage capitalism for you![/quote]

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