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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Everyone isn’t a “hand me down” type. Some insist on new things for a “new child”. To each their own.

Why do you think she is insecure, because she won’t accept your scraps?[/quote]

Yeah, I'm not a Goodwill person. I just can't do it. I'm okay with hand-me-downs from people I know.  OP, you should have offered before you boxed them up and presumed she'd want them. Maybe she hates the styles you pick out. Maybe you're a smoker or have a cat and she's allergic. Who knows? But you should have offered before bringing the box, and you have no reason to be offended she didn't want them.[/quote]

I can’t do it either. A college friend LOVES to shop at thrift stores, garage sales and charity rummage sales. She is constantly buying for other people: her family, friends, and sometimes me. Her house has become very cluttered. I am not a collector of household items nor do I like secondhand clothing unless they are a family heirloom or of cultural significance (I am multicultural). I stopped exchanging gifts with her when I saw that they all were from garage sales. [b]Her mother (middle class)  always bought her new clothing and kept a nice home [/b]so this is not something she grew up around. She has been through several losses so I think that may be contributing to her reluctance to let used items “go to waste”. [/quote]

Or she saw how much money her mother wasted and didn't want that for herself. As if you have to buy all new to have "a nice home." [/quote]

Nope, she buys new things but she loves the “treasure hunt”. Her DH and kids hate all the clutter her hobby creates. [/quote]

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