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[quote=Anonymous]I may be an outlier here, but once the other family offered to pay and it was politely declined I think it’s kind of condescending and obnoxious to push to pay for someone else’s kid. It begins to feel like the other kid is some kind of paid companion rather than a genuine friend, and I would hate to have my kid feel like a charity case when the truth is we are able and willing to pay. There is also an element of control to paying for both kids: perhaps the other mother prefers to have control over the activity and is willing to buy that control rather than having to negotiate the terms with the other family, as one usually does. Some very rich people feel awkward around people who have normal financial situations and they tend to over correct in unwittingly patronizing ways. Your kids are friends now, but in the years ahead they will be made more and more aware of these financial dynamics. If it were me, I’d want to set reasonable and friendly, but clear, boundaries right now about expectations going forward. I’m gently reply that I’d prefer to pay for my child’s portion of the lesson (or split the cost or whatever) and I’d be grateful if she’d let me know how/where to pay. [/quote]

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