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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ignore the people telling you that thing that matters to you doesn’t matter. You get to decide. [/quote]
Most people on this thread aren't saying OP should disregard things that matter to her. It's not the fact that OP wants to be with someone who will celebrate her on her birthday that's the issue, it's that she's not telling the poor guy this and expects him to somehow magically know by reading her mind because she won't use her words to just say it - even when he raises her birthday in conversation. That's the ridiculous trap-setting expectation everyone's annoyed at OP about.

OP, if what you really mean is you want to be with someone who also by nature thinks birthdays are a big deal like you do, rather than someone who might be more than happy to make sure your birthday is acknowledged because you tell them it's important to you but doesn't intrinsically attach the same importance to birthdays you do, then say so. Because what we've got here right now is failure to communicate.[/quote]

In a newish relationship, the default should be to acknowledge the partner's birthday in at least some small way (card, gift, drinks or dinner). This is not a DH  of 20 years who has learned that you don't care that much about your birthday and are okay with a verbal greeting- that's a very different situation.[/quote]

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