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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I hope that OP keeps us updated. This is the best will-he-or-won't-he I've read in a while.

For the record, I'm Team OP. She told him it was important to celebrate her birthday. If he drops the ball, they are incompatible. Doesn't matter how any of us celebrate or don't celebrate our birthdays.[/quote]

OP: thank you:) We went for a walk last night and grabbed a quick bit to eat and at one point he again said, "someone's birthday's coming up!" and I smiled. But, no mention of any plans for before (it would have to be tonight) or after birthday. Trying to be chill- it's hard![/quote]

But why oh why would you just smile and say nothing?! If I were your boyfriend, I would take that to mean you don’t want to do anything and I would think ‘oh crap, she doesn’t want me to do anything for her birthday, I should cancel the XYZ I had planned!’ You had one conversation months ago about how you like a big to do about your birthday, and he keeps bringing it up and you keep shutting it down! You are sending mixed signals and the guy is probably very confused. I do not like celebrating my birthday and if someone brought it up to me, I would definitely just smile and say yes and change the subject. That to me clearly conveys I don’t want to do anything and I don’t want to talk about it! [/quote]

Agree. OP you really need to communicate when he opens up about this, something along the lines of “birthdays were always a big deal in my family, my favorite was when my dad threw a surprise party for my 20th, I always think it’s fun to celebrate someone’s special day, don’t you, etc etc etc.”[/quote]

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