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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My husband and I have gone to the beach (Fenwick) for decades, and of course brought our kids when they were young. After my son and my daughter grew up and each got married, we've invited their families to join us each year. (We also include my husband's sister and her son, and my husband's mother while she was alive.) We sometimes invite friends, so we usually rent from one of three nice properties. We have good relationships with the owners of each property, and we enjoy the trip every year.

Apparently my son and his wife do not wish to do the beach trip next year--they already agreed to this year when DH and I reached out in January. They are sending us links for mountain resorts, and are offering to pay. DH and I would rather be at the beach, but DH does not have a lot of vacation time (he manages a pool company, so unfortunately little work from home opportunity from them, and summers are obviously quite busy). But I would hate to miss out on the opportunity to vacation with our grandkids.

Am I wrong to feel that this is a lot to process? We pay for lovely accommodations. I understand that DIL wants something different and is offering to pay, but I still kind of wonder why a free beach week is so awful and tradition needs to be changed. [/quote]

OP you have several choices.
1.  Decline the mountain trip and continue with your annual beach week with those who can come and with your husband.
2.  Go solo (without husband) to the mountain trip and have your annual beach week with husband and those who can come.
3.  Skip your beach week one year and you and husband join your son for the mountain trip.

I grew up about 20 miles from the Delaware/Maryland beaches. I lived and worked in Rehoboth for many years. I lived and worked in OC Md for many years.  Understand however that not everyone is crazy about the beach.  Many find it boring. Many find the sun problematic. Many find the traffic and crowds problematic. Many people don't like the heat.

My beautiful niece met a guy in NYC.  He grew up in Wilmington.  My niece met the boyfriend's mother at the Rehoboth family beach house.  The mother made it very very clear that the family vacationed together for two weeks every summer in Rehoboth and that if my niece married into the family that she would be expected to vacation two weeks every summer at the family's beach house while all of the family was present.
CRAZY.  My niece is no longer with this guy.

What does your husband want to do?  It sounds like he has a demanding and challenging job. I'd maybe see what he wants to do on his break.

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