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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Most people in the dating pool don't want anything to do with you open married people. You're only good for FWB or other kinks, nothing serious, casual sex, rebound sex etc. It will also become completely one sided when the woman has her choice of guys and the man can't get a date. But go ahead and do it, report back.[/quote]This is very true.  Even for married-but-cheating folks, they shy away from an affair with someone in an open marriage in favor of someone who is also cheating.  They want someone with as much to lose and, even when they say, not looking to change your life or mine, they at least like to think that AP is a possibility for a new relationship that will help them exit their marriage.  Having an affair with a person where their spouse knows about it is a bit too much for a lot of people.  I've been that partner who was good as a FWB, kinky partner, rebound partner until she took her BF back, all of it.  About half were single women but all were fairly short-lived and on her terms.  If you're a man in an open marriage, you are better off lying about it and saying you are cheating.  I didn't and still did well, but it would have been easier.  [/quote]

Yeah.  It's great to blow up two families/spouses/two sets of kids :roll:  :roll: .  That "mutual destruction' BS was started by the Ashley Madison ppl.  The implosion it causes is nuclear.  [/quote]You don't really get it.  Married people take a huge risk, obviously, of being discovered and no one wants to have it blow up on them.  It's not enough to practice stealth and know how be be discreet.  You have to trust that the other person, who has just as much to lose, will protect your privacy and not be careless with your information.  The problem with open-marriage types is they don't have to worry about being caught by their spouse so they are less inclined to do the things that cheating married people go through to not get caught.

People in affairs tend to shy away from the open-marriage types where it's really a triangle because the spouse knows about you also.  It's also weird for them to think that some guy's wife knows he is in her bed tonight.  She would rather be deceiving her affair partner's spouse, the same as she is deceiving her own spouse where only the two cheaters are party to the crime.  If your marriage is truly open and your shopping on AM it's best not to say so.  Unless you're a woman of course.  Most cheating men don't care as long as she's willing to have sex.  Woman care.[/quote]

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