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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I grew up in a blended home and I can tell you neither my mom nor my step-father made any of us feel like their home wasn't 100% our home. These are your kids and your husband is now part of your family. It's not you living in his house, letting your kids stay there. It's their home and they NEED to feel that completely. Like any parent, your husband needs to figure out how to get his needs met in ways that don't make the kids feel like they are in the way. I'd start from there and work with DH to brainstorm ways you can have "alone time."[/quote]

It sounds like the kids are too much at home and disrespectful to the stepfather who has to be their personal maid as the actual parent lets them get away with poor behavior.  Then, they get mad at a parent and play the parents off each other by bouncing home to home.  [/quote]

OP here: My boys are very, very respectful to my husband. I can honestly say they have never been rude towards him, and everyone gets along well. As far as cleaning goes, I understand that they are my kids and I take full responsibility for that. I do ALL of the cooking and cleaning in the house (besides what the boys do as part of their chores). If I’m unable to cook dinner, my husband will order in for everyone. My husband cleans up after himself only. For example, he only does his own laundry. If he uses a dish, he will hand wash that dish only. He doesn’t do any of the general chores around the house. If I ask him to do something outside of whatever personal mess he has made, he’ll tell me “make the boys do it”. [/quote]

I cannot believe what I just read. [/quote]

+1 op I said earlier to tell husband options are get with the program or get divorced but frankly I think you should just get divorced. He sounds absolutely terrible. [/quote]

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