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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here— if he gave me $3 million, that would definitely take care of my retirement concerns! I’m still wary that he seems awfully needy/possibly controlling, but it’s hard to tell— long distance relationships seem to skew everything. I’d much rather be single than deal with neediness. He told me that he needs to be the top priority in my life. He is the top priority in my life but I seem to disappoint him a lot— I can’t seem to live up to his expectations. If something with work or my elderly parents comes up, he takes it personally if it takes away from time we are spending together.[/quote]

So Idk who introduced this idea of the guy giving OP 3m...we might as well speculate on him giving her the Hope diamond. Respectfully to the OP (bc you seem like a nice person); your boyfriend can't seem to wrap his head around your 300K/yr job; let alone cough up 3m to protect your retirement. He's your retirement, at least that's how he sees this. And by he's your retirement, I mean it will look like what he wants it to look like. What you're describing isn't neediness; it's control.

To all the posters discounting OP's description of feeling manipulated and saying "he wants one thing, she wants another, no one's wrong here"...I don't agree. OP isn't saying her way or the highway; she wants to maintain the partnership and continue the job she already has. This guy wants to maintain the partnership...and have her quit her job, take a payout, move out of state, etc. Or, he wants out. Those are his terms. I see no willingness to compromise on his part, which isn't a partnership, yet he's saying he wants just that. *That* is why she feels manipulated. And I agree with her.[/quote]

Of course we didn't mean that he MUST give her $3mm. It's obviously he won't. But he puts forward demands as if he's such a wealthy catch who can offer an woman like her a generous prenup with all the guarantees.

Indeed, why is he not OK just continuing their enjoyable relationship? Why all these demands? I'll regret for the rest of my life declining a scholarship from Columbia Law school to get married. Because my exH was telling all this BS about him taking care of me, how I would never have to work 9-5 for work and how he will sponsor my education in a city he wanted me to be.

We divorced 15 years after in a bitter fight over each penny.

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