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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Hi OP, I am a woman who drank too much for several years. DH had no idea bc I hid it. I drank in my car, in my home office while on late day calls, in the bathroom, the garage, etc. Id even be drinking cocktails at home while with DH while watching movies and he never caught on. I would either “hide” the empties in the trash (wrap the bottles in trash so they werent visible) or hide them someone for the evening and deal with them the next day.

What you are explaining sounds like your husband may be doing the same and what you are finding is forgotten evidence.[/quote]

Thank you for sharing. What I can't wrap my head around is that how would I not notice he is tipsy/drunk? I can tell when he's had 2-3 beers, his voice slightly changes and he loosens up a bit. I can't imagine him drinking hard alcohol and me not noticing. Obviously I'm aware this is likely happening. How did you hide that or how did your DH not notice?

I do think the pepermint schnapps was an intentional choice because since I had kids, the smell of alcohol makes me so nauseous for some reason and I'm like HYPER aware of it.[/quote]

BTDT poster here.  one of the most compelling things a marriage counselor said to us was that the worst thing an addict does to the people they love is steal their peace of mind.  I am totally the type of person (type A, I admit) who knows how many bottles of sauvignon blanc are in the 50 bottle basement wine fridge, and yet somehow when some disappeared I thought I must have misremembered.  there were other weird things to that in hindsight I absolutely cannot believe I was dumb enough to fall for (like he replaced my cooking sherry because he noticed ‘flakes’ in it - as if he would ever be in my cooking cabinet for anything, other than to feed his addiction).  you didn’t notice because your subconscious doesnt want you to notice and deal with the reality.  honestly - it took a long time to start trusting my own instincts again, and regain my ‘peace of mind.’. I’m sorry … but you are not alone.  self care and forgiveness will be important as you heal.[/quote]

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