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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I keep coming back to this quote in the article:

[i][b]As a result, the Always Be My Maybe star shared she became "more motivated to make my own money because I signed a document specifically outlining how much I couldn't depend on my husband,"[/b][/i]

This is sad to me. I think especially after she became successful, the feeling that she believed in her husband but he didn’t believe in her would be increasingly hurtful. She tries to rationalize it so many ways and that’s what it comes down to: The person she married didn’t believe in her. I think there’s even part of Baby Covra where she says she used her TV money to pay off some of his debts? Ouch. That has to sting. I’m not surprised they’re getting divorced.

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The "how much I couldn't depend on my husband" is very telling. Clearly there were issues before the wedding.[/quote]

I think there may have been shame on her behalf, and possibly her family or origin, that his family made her sign a prenup, signalling that his family was better than hers. Better financially, in stature.  She may have been perceived as a loser, a gold digger, “he or they didn’t believe in her”.  She couldn’t depend on him to support her.  They or he didnt seem to see that the marriage was long term.  Money is an awkward thing in Asian cultures. A lot of pride around money. I am Asian, and I completely understand where she was coming from, the need to show him and his family that she was not a gold digger or loser. The anger, but also satisfaction in showing them they were wrong,  when she ended up working a lot harder than him, laying their bills. That they did not have boys may have also been problematic. Grandsons would be more valued unfortunately.[/quote]

Your comment reminded me of her 'jungle' versus 'fancy' Asian jokes. [/quote]

Didn’t she pay off his student loans?  They either aren’t that rich or extremely tight. [/quote]

Both? Sounds like his parents didn't pay off that much-praised Harvard MBA. Neither did his job. His wife did.

So how rich could they possibly be? [/quote]

It is really un-asian to not pay for your kids' school when you can afford it. Having your DIL to pay for it is totally losing face. Not sure what is going on with his family.[/quote]

+1 Asian and I'm shocked. My parents are not rich but they are UMC and paid for it all.[/quote]

You guys it wasn’t student loans. He got in over his head with a start up and lost 70K. His parents payed fir private schools for him and gave him every advantage.

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Oh. Hmm. While they were married? And they have 4 & 6 year-old and were just married 8 years ago. That's a lot to handle.[/quote]

Yes. And he never told her about the debt. She found out when they were buying a house.

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You can't be serious. [b]The guy has an MBA - he didn't think it would come out?! [/b]Why didn't he ask his wealthy parents for a holdover loan to clear it?[/quote]

I actually think BECAUSE he has this MBA and is under the thumb of his parents might be part of his own hubris in thinking he could hide it from her and she would be none the wiser, because she may not be as fluent in these kinds of things as he is. If that's the case, I can see that being a major point of contempt for her. [/quote]

[b]Assuming she wouldn't know the nuance of buying a property is sexism on his party[/b] but even if she didn't it[b]s the lender's job to let you as a couple know what you qualify for. If they were trying to buy it together, a credit check would put a big red flag on his account from the get-go.[/b]

'Hey hunny, why does the lender say we only qualify for $725K because your DTI ratio is too high? You only have a 6-year-old toyota in your name..."[/quote]

I agree with everything you are saying, especially the bolded, but I'm not totally clear on the timeframe of when this happened. I think it was after they were already married, so it was "surprise" debt to her when they purchased a house but were already married and possibly when she was making more money. Hence, she paid off the bad debt but it might have been a red flag disillusioning moment for her this guy "better than her" didn't have his sh+t together as much as she thought.

I'm totally spitballing, feel free to disagree, but I can see someone resenting being put in that situation. Not a mega fan or anything, just thinking through why one might have this dynamic as we do on the internet. [/quote]

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