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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Wow I’m really surprised by these responses. I’m MC and live in a MC suburb and have been to many birthday parties; some at venues and some at homes or playgrounds. I have truly never judged people for hosting a party at a park or playground and, unless the invite says no gifts, I take joy in bringing a gift the child will enjoy.

The point of a children’s birthday party isn’t to get your moneys worth or even enjoy it if you really insist on being miserable. The point is to celebrate the child and for the kids to have fun. Is this attitude a stingy rich person thing? [/quote]

YES! It definitely is entitled parents raising entitled children that see life events as a transaction rather than a celebration.[/quote]

Yes and these are the same people who think a wedding gift should cover the cost of attendance.  My kid asks for playground parties so that’s what we do.  I have enough refreshments for everyone and we do “no gifts” but not bc it’s at the playground.  We do “no gifts” because we don’t need anything.  If people think we are cheap, oh well.  It’s more important to me to give our kids the party that they want.  If the adults are upset about it, that says a lot more about how they were raised than how I’m raising my kids.[/quote]

IMO it's not the rich parents who care about this stuff - they have everything and it is unlikely that they would quibble over a $20 gift for a playground party or care if it's not fancy enough.  They have plenty of fancy things.  [/quote]

Who is it then- the UMC?[/quote]

It’s people who are stretching to throw “fancy toddler parties” and are resentful when other families do “less.”  The solution is for the resentful people to scale back, not for everyone else to scale up.  This is one of the pettiest threads I’ve ever read on DCUM. [/quote]

+1 Exactly![/quote]

How exactly could the cheapskates do less than a cupcake in a public playground?  What would less even look like? [/quote]

PP was saying the “fancy” party throwers should scale back if they are doing so much for their own kids that they become resentful of families who do “less.”  How could you not understand that post?  Then again if you’re really comparing and judging toddler birthday parties, I’m not surprised that you can’t read.[/quote]

I guess we found the gift-grabbing cheap skates on this thread. [/quote]

I’ve had all kinds of parties, including park parties, depending on what my kids wanted to do that year.  So yes.  I guess I am a cheapskate according to you.  But in my view, if you were comfortable with the amount of money and effort you were spending on your own parties- or even just otherwise happy with your life- it wouldn’t bother you if your child were invited to a party at a park.  This is just another form of comparison that people do and it’s really not healthy.[/quote]

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