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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]God, so many hypocritical women on this thread. You didn't care what your husband looked like when you met him and fell for him? And you would be sexually interested in him now regardless of his appearance? He could weigh 300 pounds, smell like old cheese, have zits all over, yellow teeth, and so on, and you would still be sextually attracted to him? Give me a break.  [/quote]

I guess so. My sexual attraction to my husband really doesn’t fluctuate based on his appearance.  When we met, he lifted weights a lot, and he was bigger and more muscular than he is now.  He also had fewer wrinkles and a full head of hair.  Now, he is skinny and balding with an occasional neck beard and hair starting to grow on his back and shoulders.  You know what, it really doesn’t affect how I feel about him.  
He is my life partner.  He is the father of my children.  He was there for me when my mother was diagnosed with cancer and later when she died.  I stood by him when he was from his job and didn’t know what he was going to do.  We make each other laugh every single day.  No.  I don’t care if he has zits or hair on his back, no hair on his head, yellowing teeth, or a beer belly.  I still love him exactly the same, and I still want to express that in a physical way.

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Same here. H is definitely not as “hot” as he was when we met but I’m more attracted to him than ever. He sat by my side when I was sick in the hospital literally soiling myself over and over, changed my bedding when nurses couldn’t, and never made me feel less than beautiful. I watched him take whatever drops of breast milk I could pump to the NICU for our premie baby at all hours of the day and night. He’s prioritized “exercise” that lets us bond as a family, so walking the kids to the park to play soccer in the evening, or doing a kids yoga video, or taking our child on nature walks, rather than going to the gym by himself and being away from our family. Which means he’s not getting a workout in that would make him “hot”, although what he’s doing is probably healthier (exercise, outdoors, and family time instead of pounding away on a treadmill).

Sex is way hotter now too, as we’re not insecure about our bodies anymore, we know the other person wants *us* and not just a hottie, and we’ve stopped feeling like we need to perform to be as attractive as possible.

I feel sad for everyone whose attraction to their spouse is so fickle. Being with my H feels like coming home and a new adventure at the same time. [/quote]

And if your husband wanted to lose weight and get fit you'd tell him not to because you wouldn't find him attractive?[/quote]

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