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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Given that you have children 2 years apart from the stepkids, and the stepkids were 2 and 4, when your kids were born their continued insistence to treat them differently is odd. I would continue to set the boundaries your currently have. [/quote]
This. That being said, they have their own grandparents. [/quote]

Now, I’m really curious. Have the stepdaughters ever gone on a trip with their maternal grandparents without your daughters?

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Every time this issue comes up on DCUM, the questions above are raised.  The OPs never answer because the answer is always that the other maternal grand parents don’t do anything.  Badgering your parents to treat children who aren’t biologically theirs is wrong.  If you’re going to continue down the path of forcing them to have relationships with the step kids, then you need to start getting ugly about your step childrens’ maternal grand parents and how they ignore your biological children.  That’s really the only way to be completely fair to everyone.  [/quote]

OP here,

My step kids maternal grandparents live in a different state, dh and mine live 30 minutes away from us. Step kids visit out of state grandparents on holidays and summer break. My kids have no contact with them, because it's long distance and they have my parents locally. I am not forcing anyone on my parents. I am asking for fair treatments period. The other set of grandparents are not financially set to be pay for expensive trips and etc. [/quote]

Wait. So the step kids go visit their grandparents without your bio kids?? But you won’t let your bio kids visit your parents unless their step sibs are included?? That’s not fair at all![/quote]

I disagree. It is not a good comparison. The OP's parents' step grandchildren are their son-in-law's children. Assuming they love their son-in-law, they should treat his children well, too. The ex-wife's parents wouldn't treat the OP's children the same way. Her children are their ex-son-in-law's kids. Why would they treat their ex-son-in-law's kids the same way as someone would treat their current son-in-law's kids? Also, the OP's step kids have been in her home 50% of the time for 10 years. Presumably, her parents would know these kids fairly well. The ex-wife's parents would not have any reason to know the OP's children. It's not like they are in their daughter's house ever.[/quote]

Interesting.

It’s almost like you’re saying the stepkids and bio kids have different sets of grandparents and they have a different relationship with them? And that’s okay!!??!!!

That is very interesting. [/quote]

No, I don't think you understand what I'm saying.[/quote]

You are saying it’s ok stepkids get from mom and her parents things your kids don’t get which is not equal but you keep demanding more and more from your parents who are not the grandparents.   They respect boundaries.  You do not.  These kids get gifts from both parents in two homes.   Yours do not.  Your kids get less.  These kids are not your parents responsibility.  They got the kids a nice gift and instead of you being grateful, you demand more.  Why can’t you buy them more to make things equal.   [/quote]

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