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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I am a PP who posted earlier that we are also supporting our 25 year old DD.  She is also in medical school.  It sounds like your DD is taking advantage of your relationship, or she is letting her bf take advantage of you.  Have you considered giving your DD a fixed amount per month for groceries, etc.?  We pay our DD’s rent directly and give her a set amount for groceries/miscellaneous.  She does not have our credit card.  This allows her to make her own decisions, but with the reality of a (fairly tight) budget.  Hopefully, this is preparing her for real life, as she will definitely need to budget during residency, etc.[/quote]

Exactly.   It is important for your daughter to learn to budget (frankly she should have learned years ago.)  For example, if you leave all the lights on all the time and your electric bill doubles, you won't have enough money to go out to dinner with your friends.   The way you describe your daughter's judgement right now, it scares me that she could some day be responsible for someone's life, as their physician![/quote]

This. I was an idiot about money because my parent was controlling and never gave me autonomy. One parent had died just as I left for college and I didn't want to make things harder for my surviving parent. That parent doled out money, it was my own though, and questioned every expenditure. Once I got the accounts in my own name and managed the money myself I saw some of the concerns my parent had were valid. [/quote]

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