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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Where are BIL's family - his parents and siblings?  They need to step up.

I would encourage your mom not to help this time.  She needs to take care of herself.  DELAYING CHEMO?  What is wrong with your sister and BIL??  Plus, she is probably immuno-compromised and being around little kids is dangerous - this could kill her!

I would call your sister and your BIL and demand they get their own childcare.  [b]If you can afford it, offer to help pay.  If your mom & dad can afford it, have them pitch in.[/b]

Or tell them to start a Go-fund-me.

Outrageous.[/quote]

This is absolutely terrible advice. This kind of enabling is exactly what will make them think their actions are okay. They’ll never stop because they’re never held responsible for their own actions. Their actions hurt everyone around them as it as, why be a party to that continuation? They’ll continue being selfish and it will continue to impact everyone more than it already does now. It’s not OP’s or her parents job to bail out the sister and BIL for their horrible decision-making and equally awful parenting choices. The nieces shouldn’t have to suffer, and it’s not fair that they are but ultimately it’s their parents who are responsible for them and OP offered to have them stay with her but the sister refused. The OP offered her a life raft and she refused it. That’s the epitome of greed and selfishness. At this rate, those kids are already suffering. There’s nothing OP can do to eliminate that entirely. She tried to reduce it but their parents refused so what can you do? Do not bend to what the parents (OP’s sister and her DH) want…it’s already all about what they want. It’s not in the best interest of their kids to continue to enable their parents who are already incapable of acting responsibly. Enabling them just means more future selfish and irresponsible parenting decisions that the girls will have to deal with the fallout of. [/quote]

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