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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have always found it incredible that grandparents or other family would not take a child that went for adoption. Grandparents are generally so crazy for grandchildren.

It is partially explained by the stigma of unwed mothers. The grandparents think, for the good of own daughter, her child must be sent away! Or else she will never make a good marriage etc. Very insecure mentality.

I just know if it were my grandchild, I wpuld move the earth to make sure that baby stayed with her mother, with me, or in the family generally.[/quote]

Not all grandparents are in a position to take care of a baby. Surely you can appreciate that what might work you wouldn’t necessarily work for others. Being crazy about grandkids is a totally different level than becoming a parent again after you’ve already done that with your own children.

As an adoptee; I have no ‘first family’. I have one family, the one who raise me and with whom I was raised. I have biological parents but they’re not my family. They’re just blood relatives. Sorry if that offends you but that’s how I see it.[/quote]

Does not offend me. I am just saying, would do anything possible to keep a baby in my family and away from someone like you. What a nightmare. I cannot even imagine. [/quote]

Haha, and you don’t offend me despite being extremely rude. Weren’t you saying the adoptee has the right to decide how to relate to their parents? It’s not a nightmare for someone to be happy with their family and not feel compelled to seek out someone with whom they have no relationship, even if self righteous people think it so. [/quote]

I said only what I said above. Do not conflate me with others. I have my own singular opinions. My opinions include that you are a kook who should never have been allowed to adopt children. [/quote]

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