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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Divorce is an easy solution, fidelity, commitment, raising a family needs hard work. If you see people taking easy way out, you too want to leave and be single and date. [/quote]

LOL. No, divorce is not easy. I went from a cushy SAHM lifestyle to a single mom making minimum wage. Plus a vindictive xH who continues to make my life hell at every opportunity. I know many other mothers who went through the same thing. The easy thing would have been to ignore our problems and stay.

Usually what I see is one person (often mom) busting their ass to be a good spouse and parent to make the marriage work, while the other spouse basically continues living as if they were single, whether that’s not helping with the kids/house, cheating, drinking, abuse, workaholic, whatever. When the good spouse finally gets fed up and leaves, they are criticized for breaking their vows. But no one ever criticizes the crappy spouse for not holding up THEIR vows to “love and to cherish”, to be an equal partner, to place the marriage and family above their own selfish wants.

So I think the issue is less “why do so many people get divorced” and more “why do so many people suck at marriage”. [/quote]

Then again why marry irresponsible, alcoholic, abusive cheaters? Its not like these are forced child brides or living in old ages. They ate dating, sleeping with, living with these men before marriage. No?[/quote]

[b]A lot of these men and women decided to go back to their youth midlife and just throw away everything they worked for. Like they were in a cage for adolescence and didn’t experience enough before marriage. Whatever the reason they tend to be quite good husbands and wife’s before the mental breakdown. [/b][/quote]

[b]+100 many were monogamous for 15-20 years+.  Decent, fun, loving spouses and great parents/partners until they lost their damn minds.  They changed drastically. [/b] [/quote]

+1000[/quote]

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