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I leave for work at 630. Before I leave I prepare the baby’s breakfast, what else he needs for the day. My husband wakes up at 7 but reads his news for 45 minutes because he says he needs to start his day right. So he wakes up the baby changes the diaper and dresses him but his meal; etc all done by me. [/quote]

You seem more mad about the fact that your DH has downtime (and you don't) than the idea he does less than you with regard to the baby (it seems he does more overall, especially on the day to day stuff because of your long hours).

It's like you won't be happy unless your DH is miserable, doing housework and baby-related drudgery, during all the hours that you are at work. That's a ridiculous expectation. I think you actually hate your job and resent all the hours you work, but instead of focusing on that you are resenting your DH for working fewer hours. What's wrong with him taking a little time to himself every morning before getting the baby up? That's just healthy -- I do it daily.

You work too much. You work too much. You work too much. THAT's the problem. You are trying to make your DH the problem when it's really your job. Sorry. Working 80 hrs a week and parenting a baby only works if you have a SAHM or multiple nannies (or a nanny and a very good housekeeper). Your DH has a job too, he's obviously doing a lot of childcare, and your are getting mad about him looking at his phone before the baby wakes up or playing video games after the baby goes to bed. He's not a slave, he's a person. You should remind yourself that you are one too.[/quote]

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