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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think the ticking biological clock thing is so overstated.  I got accidentally pregnant from one time unprotected sex at 38.  And I know sooooooo many other women that have similar stories from their late 30s and 40s.  I only know two women who had fertiility issues—one had issues starting at age 25 because it turned out an ovulation problem she never knew about.  The other didn’t start trying until late 30s—so very well may have had the same issues if she had started earlier.

Also, I’ve done a lot of geneological research reviewing census records from the 19th and early 20th century.  A certain percentage of women were just infertile or had low birth rates regardless of the early marriages and lack of birth control.  For women that were gererallt fertile, if they didn’t die or have catastrophic gyn problems from chldbirth, they were generally having kids into their 40s. Elizabeth cady Stanton had her last at 44 (feminism not having dried up her ovaries). [/quote]

Here's the thing about older parents. Autism is linked to older fathers, so your childbearing issues are not limited to just older women that can't conceive. It's that your child may have developmental differences, be on the Autism spectrum, or worse. Surprised no one has chimed in from the SN forum on this. [/quote]

I'll jump in. My last dc was born when I was 43. Her dad was 42 (our other kids were born when we were in our 20's and early 30's). She is dx with autism and also giftedness (she is considered 2E). She's truly the light of our whole family's lives! We are so glad she's here. I think it's good to be aware of the possibility but I would not let it stop you having a dc-I know plenty of other families with kids with differing abilities that were born to 20's and 30's parents.[/quote]

Your older kids will be stuck with her care when you die.  Will she be the light of their lives?  [/quote]

PP here. Two things-first, ableist much?  People with disabilities can and do live full lives.

second-not sure how much care she would need, she may be pretty well independent (or at least mostly so). I am planning for her future financially-and as someone older and farther along in my career, I can do this-so no sibling will be 'stuck' if she does need help.

You do know that your kids can have a disabled sibling if all your kids are born in your 20's, right?[/quote]

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