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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]In my circle women’s college and profession matters but once married, it’s usually her decision if she wants to work or stay home after kids, men are okay with both choices. Men with high IQ tend to enjoy beauty but they crave intelligence.[/quote]

Same.  [/quote]

This is what I've noticed. Career accomplishments optional, education not.

All things said "education"/ "intelligence"/ "success" is shorthand for other capacities and character traits that may come in handy when building a life with someone.  [/quote]

No. Educated men generally marry educated women because they meet them in school or in the same social circles. But education is not a must-have criteria. Most men would trade in an educated woman whose looks had declined for a hot, kind, great-in-bed woman. In fact, high status men often do just that after divorcing their first wife.[/quote]
I guess they don't care if they have dumb children. Mother's education/intelligence greatly impacts the child's intelligence.[/quote]

Except most "high status"  :roll: men don't divorce.  I also think the stereotype of the partner running away with his secretary is somewhat dying because of a sea change of gender roles.  Divorces peaked in the late 1970s and early 1980s because you had a clash of expectations.  Certainly, women worked before then, but it was much seen as a long-term, fulfilling career.  By the 70s and 80s, men tended to view a wife's career as something of a side hobby.  Great for them to have a career unless it impacted the smooth operation of the home.  If you are a professional man who is 20 or 30 now and you want to get married, your expectations are going to be different.  If you just want sex, it's never been easier to find a willing partner.  Of the men that I have known who have been with someone that much more attractive but who they didn't particularly respect, it never works out, even if they sex was really good. Plenty of people deciding to have children or a buy a home without being married.  Both marriage and divorce is down, but divorce is particularly down among what PP would call the "high status" men.
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I can't speak for most men, but for myself and the group of men that I know enough to have some sense of their answer here, [/b]I don't think it's accurate that many are looking to swap for a second wife.  Of course, it might also become more important at a certain age where drive levels depart more frequently.

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First, let's make it clear that you are a woman, the one obsessed with high status men and low value women. Wealthy men cheat at exponentially higher rates than middle income ones, because of high ego and more opportunities. They do divorce a lot, simply because they have the means to divorce. They don't run away with the secretary, but with younger women who are better educated and better looking than their starter wives. I can come up with a huge list. My FIL was one of these guys. [/quote]

I'm a man.  See bold.

I'm not sure why you think I have a particular interest in high status men.  I'm just responding to PP suggesting that most men are looking to trade up.  And regardless of the anecdotal evidence you may know, the truth is that divorce rates are falling and are under 30% for high-income marriages after 25.  [/quote]

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