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[quote=Anonymous][quote]Why generosity is a required trait for men but not for women? It’s not like women can’t be stingy or have problem sharing?

I’m the poster who keeps talking about generosity— I think it is an important trait for everyone. I just booked a vacation for my family all out of “my” money (we have joint accounts and then we each get a set figure for discretionary spending, I have been putting some of mine aside for this) and my airlines miles. I could of course have just bought myself something but that’s not how I value using money. My husband would say he “screened” for generosity based on how I was willing to help him study before we were dating.[quote]

I agree that it's odd that men paying for a date (a very traditional approach) somehow is a litmus test or screen for generosity.  I actually don't understand the concept of needing such a screen at all.  In a relationship, it is a quality you will either see demonstrated in a variety of ways, or not.  No one action or inaction should be determinative.

Also, FWIW, I am a woman and the one who always flies business due to a health issue.  My DH and kids usually now also fly business, but that was not always the case.  I have also seen plenty of men - and women - encourage their spouse to take their business seat, or switch during the flight.
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