Reply to Paying for dates

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "Paying for dates"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]When you are dating, as a woman, you are told you will kiss a lot of frogs to find the right guy. You will hopefully also have been told by your family to know your worth and know what you want in a partner. I do not— and did not— want a partner who saves money on another person. That’s something that’s hard to know at the dating stage! Later in life you see it when a man is driving a new car every year while his wife has an old minivan, or you see an exhausted new mom whose husband objects to the cost of a baby nurse, or a man flying in business class while his wife wrangles the kids on coach. Why waste more than one date on a person like that when the universe has other people in it?[/quote]

I'm a woman.  This "logic" is crazy, and you must hang out with or know some really strange people. Your examples are just beyond ridiculous and do not prove any kind of point.  Seriously - I do not know one couple where either of them gets a new car every year, let alone just the man.  And families where only the man flies business?  I fly all the time and have never seen this.[/quote]

I know several couples where the man gets a new car every year or every other year. In the case of a couple I know that is currently divorcing the woman has had the same car for six years even though it has been in an accident— her husband drives a new Audi.

I also fly business class for work: I have seen more than a dozen instances of a man who was seated near me in business reunites at the end of the jetway with a wife and kids who were clearly not in business with him.

How would you suggest that people screen for generosity while dating? I’m all about hearing what is more up to date for when my children start dating! I can’t think of great ways that don’t involve a lot of wasted time.[/quote]

I disagree that first date check-splitting psychology is an all-encompassing test for generosity. It's fine that your view is your own. I have the patience and a deep enough pocket to suss out generosity in more ways.[/quote]

It’s not an all encompassing test. First hurdle.

Slightly different than OP, but usually in dating it’s to screen for a prospective co parent. I definitely want someone who is going to be all out for my (our) kids — who wouldn’t?

As the woman in the situation, you give your own body to gestate and nurse, you probably are going to do a lot more of the hands on nurturing when they are smaller or be responsible for getting them taken care of. So yes the guy has to show some willingness to give upfront to even get the ball rolling.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics