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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You are talking about marriages of parents who grew up and got married in India. Family enmeshment was a bigger issue for that generation than arranged marriages.[/quote]

Uh Indian-Am parents here are VERY enmeshed in their kids’ lives even here and 100% expect to be after arranged marriage too. Now some kids here will draw a line BUT in an arranged marriage you don’t know if your intended also wants distance from family or if he 100% expects mama’s involvement (and usually the guys DO want 100% involvement of their fam). And no neither you nor your parents can ask in the transactional process bc future DH and MIL will brand you as “not family oriented” and you aren’t marrying him.[/quote]

:lol:  :lol: Sweetie, you can certainly ask for all of that before marriage and reject the marriage proposal. That's how the matchmaking works. 
Nowadays, most Indian-American women are financially emancipated and very well educated. They can choose who they want to marry. Go to grad school or med/law school and you can find a spouse there

The problem is that you want an Indian cardiologist husband from the arranged marriage and then expect it to turn into a DCUM White marriage where family is not important and MIL is sidelined.  You should go and marry in other racial groups, if they will have you.  I am sure they have orphans in their community.  No Indian-American guy with a birth family will want you because you sound pretty uncultured.

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Lol. Defensive much??[/quote]

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