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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]I thought this was going to be about her supporting him, and being worried about him dumping her after he finished school/residency (which happened to a family member).[/b]  But it's about her . . . having sex with him?  Your alternative is for them to break up because . . . he is in medical school?  Generations of mothers just gave you the side eye.  [/quote]

No, you're right, that is the concern. She's being used as a booty call until he inevitably meets someone at his large university, whether that's soon or 3 or 4 years from now and he only reveals it when he dashes off to a residency.[/quote]

[b]You know he could probably find a more convenient booty call if he wanted to, right? One that lives in town. [/b]And he could always meet someone else, even if your daughter moved there and moved in.

OP, if you have concerns, you can express them gently, once. Ask her if she’s happy in the relationship and getting her needs met (and no, I’m not talking about sex). Tell her you feel the effort to keep the relationship going seems to be one sided and you don’t want to see her get hurt. She can take your feelings into consideration, or not.

But be careful in how you voice the concerns and be aware she may share the conversation with the boyfriend. If they do stay together and marry, you may forget, but he may not. I will never have anything more than a civil/polite relationship with my in laws because of crappy things they said about my character when my now husband and I were dating in our twenties. [/quote]

More convenient than a pretty young woman who lives 1,000 miles away flying to him, paying for the flights, having sex for a couple of days, and then flying away? No, it actually does not get any more convenient than that.[/quote]

Yes, actually, it does. A pretty young woman in his program or who lives in his building who stops by multiple times a week for sex for which he does not have to wait weeks or months.[/quote]
This. I went to law school and this happened with multiple guys in my class who had long distance girlfriends. [/quote]

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