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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It can be exhausting.

Agreed?[/quote]

The thing that kills me about it is that kids are moving out of their parent's homes. They will not be at home. Parents have bragging rights, but the kid isn't at home. So all this energy and effort and expense is going to a kid who is not going to be in the house, not for most of the year. Often kids get internships during the summer and are gone, essentially, except for a few weeks here and there for vacation or weekends, but they no longer live at home.

Why the obsession with where your kid goes to college? You aren't going with him or her. And they'll never look back. Two of my kids have graduated from college, and I have two younger kids who are about to go to college. The older ones are on their own. They call every once in a while if they need something, but essentially day to day parenting is a thing of the past. We don't really know what they're up to because they dont tell us. They live their own lives. They dont' thank us for all the energy, attention love and money we've lavished on them.

I'm not saying don't do it, but obsessing about college is this sort of last gasp of parenting before they leave the nest, and it's overblown and sad.

My kids went to HYPSM and wow, I feel really good when I tell other parents about it, but so what? That happens maybe once a year now adays, and the rest of the time I feel sad that my kids' lives are far away from mine. I really have little contact with them relative to when they lived at home. That's normal and natural, and I should feel proud that they're so independent, but it makes me feel really sad.

Anyway, I'm not obsessing with the younger kids. They're going to college somewhere, period, and good for them. I want them to be happy, but that's it. [/quote]

This is a very profound post and it makes me sad.

Focus on maintaining an open relationship with your child so they want to visit you often or they allow you to visit them. This can be harmed in the pursuit of the T10 college, sometimes.[/quote]

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