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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sam2- your posts on this board are usually very thoughtful and sensible.  I find it hard to believe you would ever question a person's origin beyond the answer they gave to your first "where are you from" question on first meeting unless they led the way on that discussion. Basically, I doubt you would ever do something as socially awkward as what poor OP experienced at the school. I don't think anyone is saying that there is no point along the way of friendship where it stops being rude to ask more personal question.  At least I wasn't, and I was one of the PPs saying asking is rude.  I think the issue is about when to ask.  At a meeting in which you are just meeting a person and really the end goal (due to circumstance or otherwise) is just acquaintanceship, the question has high potential to come across as emphasizing differences, not common ground.  At the point that a meeting is in the context of a continued road to friendship or with the explicit purpose of getting to know someone better (say a date), the question is far more likely to be perceived as an attempt at better understanding and genuine interest in the whole person.  [/quote]

Well said![/quote]

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