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Adults, especially in the presence of children, have an obligation to model how to handle rudeness.  BIL can refuse to “take it” by pointing out that MIL is being rude, calling out the behavior as unkind without name calling, by walking away.  Calling someone a misogynistic term just isn’t ok.  I don’t want my sons thinking they can drop that word in anger or my daughters thinking that they might deserve it.  
[/quote] This would have been mature great advice had OP not already tried it MULTIPLE times! [quote=Anonymous] OP here. Many of you suggested we deal with MIL differently. How so? How do you provide consequences to a grown woman? Remove access to our family completely? Refuse to visit her and FIL? Cut them out of our lives?

I married into the family 10 years ago and have tried my own strategies ([b]talking to her directly and calmly when she does something offensive, ignoring her, getting upset with her - none of which have worked[/b].) I’m convinced there are mental undiagnosed issues.

Genuinely curious.[/quote][/quote]

BIL didn’t leave after pointing out that MIL was being rude, he chose to use a curse word at his mother in front of the kids.  [/quote]

And the kids will be fine. If they are in school at all they have heard it many times.[/quote]

Schools have anti bullying policies, rather strict ones these days.  If a male student called a female student a B in front of the class, it would absolutely be addressed by staff.  It’s not about hearing a word.  It’s about normalizing its use as a targeted insult.[/quote]

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