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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You can go to court and fight for full custody but that would be pretty terrible for him and the kids.  Or, just leave the kids with him and take the job.  You can have visits on holidays and summers. [/quote]

Sounds like I have to persuade him to let me go…[/quote]

You mean and take the kids with you?

I mean, speaking as a father, my answer to you would be I support you going and will work with you to give you as much opportunity to see the children as possible, but I would go to the mat in court to prevent you from taking my kids with you. Your choices are to not take the job and remain close to the kids or take the jobs and see the kids sometimes. Those are quite literally the only two choices. The other one where you take your children with you? It's not happening. And that IS a hill I would die on.[/quote]

And WHY would you do that?

Why is that in the best interest of the children?[/quote]

It is not in the kids best interest to move them away from their home and dad.  Mom can go and have visits.  [/quote]

Prove its in their best interest to not be with their mother. Prove what kind of parent you were and are.[/quote]

You are operating under an antiquated paradigm, and have the burden of proof reversed.

There is no longer a default to "it is in the best interest of the children to be with their mother."  The default now is 50/50, and the burden is on the parent who wants to alter that arrangement to prove why it is in the best interests.  And that's doubly so when the reason for the change in custody is a move that will impact the other parent's ability to see the kids on a consistent basis.   [/quote]

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