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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You can go to court and fight for full custody but that would be pretty terrible for him and the kids.  Or, just leave the kids with him and take the job.  You can have visits on holidays and summers. [/quote]

Sounds like I have to persuade him to let me go…[/quote]

You mean and take the kids with you?

I mean, speaking as a father, my answer to you would be I support you going and will work with you to give you as much opportunity to see the children as possible, but I would go to the mat in court to prevent you from taking my kids with you. Your choices are to not take the job and remain close to the kids or take the jobs and see the kids sometimes. Those are quite literally the only two choices. The other one where you take your children with you? It's not happening. And that IS a hill I would die on.[/quote]

The other option would be that you would go with your wife and children overseas.  That’s what many women would do.  It’s funny that you consider yourself supportive of your wife’s career, but don’t consider giving up anything you want as a viable option.  
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This isn’t actually an option in many cases. For starters I thought we were discussing a situation where the couple is divorced. In that instance, my support for her leaving has nothing to do with “supporting her career.” If anything, it would be a relief if she went to another country. What I was saying is I would work with her so she could see the kids. But in many countries a trailing spouse can’t even work, let alone a divorced one who picks up and moves. [/quote]

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