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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]90 percent of women on my block are SAHMs. My neighbor for instance has one kid at home, an executive husband and she does clean her own house and manage house and makes dinner for three every night. Except weekends.

Her husband works in an office and eats breakfast and lunch there.

So an extra chicken cutlet at dinner time and sex on his birthday is what he gets for sharing his 600k a year salary with her.

She can deal with mental load [/quote]

Exhibit A for why women are underappreciated. This woman cleans, manages a house, parents, cooks and she should be grateful for it!

Sounds like all this man has to do is go to work. I'd rather be the man in this situation. And yes, I also make a good salary. [/quote]

+1000. I was a SAHM until my youngest went to kindergarten. It was horrible. I love my kids but I also like time alone. Now that I make almost as much as my DH the mental load is equalizing. He really started doing more when I had a high demand/visibility position and just couldn’t anymore.

I think if it is just assumed to be mom’s responsibility, it’s infuriating.[/quote]

This is why I pretty much refuse to go back to work full-time. My kids are in school, and when my husband makes noises about me going back, I ask him what additional tasks he will do if I do. He replies that he will order our groceries online.

He has no idea on any given week if he will have to leave for work early or stay at work late (attorney) or go meet a client or have some other fire to put out. He’s helpful enough when he’s here but doesn’t give it a second though when he calls to say he will be late. The only way I don’t lose my mind at the inequity is the fact that I don’t also work full time. (I am a sub.) If I did work full time I think I would just be angry at him all the time. [/quote]

Basically the same here. I always assumed I would go back when the kids were in school full time, but then we have these conversations and he realizes, with his current job, my income just wouldn’t be worth the stress of him having to do even more than he already does. I‘k homeschooling now but when this kid goes back to school I might do something like freelance writing just so I can feel productive, but right now we both know that the easiest option for both of us is for me to not work. [/quote]

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